Dating in small town like Jammu is quite difficult owing to many reasons as the society do not have exposure . society is not open to dating, love and relationships . People have different perceptions and issues related to inter religion faith and people do not have acceptance appetite for western traditions. Even though it is 21st century still dating is considered as a taboo in Jammu.
Stamp of approval
While you are living in a small town, you need to understand the fact that roaming around with your partner is still not considered good by the society. The society imposes restrictions on you due to the conservative mindset.
As youngsters are not given that much freedom to spend time with their loved ones, they resort to social networking sites to stay connected with their partners. In present times, Facebook is like a God to those who live in small towns as it is pretty easy to search for your friends on the website or to stalk your crush or even talking to anyone. Social media is a powerful tool for that section of the generation.
Need to Lie
Owing to the conservative approach of our elders towards the dating culture, you are bound to lie to your parents. The sole reason behind lying to them is that you know they will not allow you to meet them. You cannot deny from the fact that lying leaves you restless; you will definitely feel guilty sooner or later. The only option to avoid such situation is to have confidence in yourself and letting your parents know about him/her. One discussion can save you from the frequent guilt-ridden moments.
Personally, you stay alert and a constant unwanted fear will haunt you. You always have to be careful so that your neighbor, relatives, friends or family will not spot you with your partner. A warning signal keeps buzzing in your head. And unfortunately if any of your neighbours spot you with your boyfriend, you know you are screwed, they will definitely bicker about you and probably launch a campaign throwing shade on you.
No place to meet
Jammu being a small town, single men and women definitely have problems meeting new people and those who are in a relationship are stuck as they hardly have any place to date. The only option you are left with is to kidnap your partner and run away! Even that will not help.
Please do not go with this option, you might end up in a jail for forceful abduction.
Hurray for those nerds and smart-ass people who have made university campuses and public libraries- popular hangout spots. Besides peaceful ambience one can have good quality food in the cafeterias. Kindly point out if I am wrong, ask any former student , I am sure they will respond with something like- “ We miss it terribly”. Jammu University is usually swarmed up with hand-holding couples cherishing the calm environ with a cup of coffee.
Simply speaking, small towns really cramp the life of love birds but Jammuities are smart enough to figure out the possible destinations